stress management

Death & Dying 3
DEATH & DYING
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National Louis University
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Table of Contents
Introduction    3
The Grief or Bereavement Stages    3
Reflection    5
Personal, Societal & Cultural Perceptions of Death    6
Clinical & Medical Perceptions on Death    7
Global Application of Learnings    8
References    9
Introduction
The incident that etched on me about someone dying is the death of my grandmother. Sitting with her when she died of chronic heart failure at the age of 72 was a strange moment. The moment of initial grief was unbearable. I had a little conversation just before she collapsed. There was a touch of hand to pass a glass of water, after which she laid still. That was when she breathed her last breath.
The Grief or Bereavement Stages
Grief or sadness due to the death of someone close occurs in a series of stages. I have discovered that Elisabeth Kubler-Ross had described the stages of a grief model that became famous after the publication of her book “On Death and Dying” in 1969.The model describes the aspects and feelings of the people with terminal facing their death, and in general, the stages of grief of near ones (Kübler-Ross, 1973).
The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It is obvious to note that it happens in order, and there is a particular transition phase while moving from one stage to the other. I believe people can experience these stages at different points of time and that these stages do not happen in a particular order. I experienced the similar aspect that happened with me when I lost my grandmother. I also agree that people might experience all this at different points of time with different feelings which are quite different with different bereavements.
Denial- Denial is the most common aspect of bereavement and grief. It is reflected by feelings of numbness that happen during the early days following the death of a person close to us. It happens because we are unable to bear the feeling of the sudden non-existence of a person who has existed before and has been a significant part of our lives. Some people carry on as if nothing has happened but, in our heads, it becomes clear that someone has died, and it can be hard to believe that someone important is not coming back again into the lively existent with earthly life. It is also very cohesive to have a common feeling of the presence of someone who has died like hearing them or seeing them lying or sitting in a way they used to do when they were alive. It was hard for me to believe that the person who was just present some minutes before is no more in this world.
Anger- Anger is a significant emotion and very much natural when it happens within oneself when someone dies. I think this can be for anyone who was associated with the person who has died. It is because death is cruel and unfair and it is especially when someone has died before fulfilling their wish. Moreover, I experienced a common aspect, which is to feel angry towards a person who has died or angry at ourselves for the things we have not done before their death. I was angry on myself because I thought I could have taken her to the hospital immediately when she had a chest pain. I resented myself for not doing so.
Bargaining- When an individual is in grief or pain, it is hard to accept something that is going to change forever. The death of a person signifies that a person who had existed to date will become a nonexistent being from the moment of his death. At that point in time, an individual who has experienced the death of his near ones starts bargaining by making a realistic deal with themselves or perhaps with the spiritual aspect that he believes in if he is religious (Kübler-Ross & Kessler, 2005). It was hard to convince me about the death of my grandmother. I felt if something miracle can happen and bring back her life then I could have told her how much she means to me and how hard life would be without her.
I discovered at that particular point that I realized that if she was ill and bedridden, she would have suffered more. It was my inner thoughts that started believing to act in a particular way to make myself feel better or make the person who had died feel better. It is common among every individual to go over and over things that have happened in the past and thinks and over thinks what if some incidents have not happened in the way they had happened (Everett & Dunn, 2021). The individual at that point wishes to go back and change things in the hope that things could have turned out differently and that the person who has died would not have died.
Depression- Depression is the most obvious stage that reflects sadness and longing about the person or any incident that individual thinks about and suffers from pain. I agree that this associates the mental pain and can be extensively intense, which comes in waves for many months or years. This relates a mental tension and frustration such that the individual thinks that they are no meaning for life to exist or which can be extensively scary.
Acceptance- Grief indeed comes in waves and an individual feels like nothing will be all right after the death of a close person. But it is obvious that the pain of an individual ceases with time and this...